- True Love is Caring. The ancient Greeks had many different names for different forms of love: passion, virtuous, affection for the family, desire, and general affection. But no matter how love is defined, they all hold a common trait: caring.
- True Love is Attractive. Attraction and chemistry form the bond that allows people to mate. Without this romantic desire for another individual, a relationship is nothing more than lust or infatuation.
- True Love is Attached. Like the mother-child bond, attachment comes after the initial attraction. Attachment is the long term love that appears anywhere from one to three years into a romantic relationship (sometimes sooner and very rarely after), and you'll know you've found it when you can honestly say, "I've seen the worst and the best you have to offer, and I still love you," while your partner feels the same way.
- True Love is Commited. When it comes to true love, commitment is more than just monogamy. Its the knowledge that your partner cares for you and has your back, no matter what the circumstances. People who are strongly commited to one another will, when faced with seemingly negative information about their partner, see only the positive. For example, a friend comments that your partner doesn't say a lot. "Ah yes, he's the strong, silent type," you reply. People with less commitment to their partner would instead say something like, "Yeah, I can never have conversation with him. Its annoying."
- You’re comfortable with each other, no matter what others say or do.
- Plans are made and kept, or the excuse is true.
- Time is always planned and reserved just for you.
- Your needs are a top priority over most people and things.
- Begging or pleading is not required for affection.
- Family, friends and work don’t compare to you.
- Love stands up for you any time there is trouble.
- Attention and awareness is freely given, and faults are ignored or quickly forgiven.
- There are no secrets regarding your relationship and it’s good companionship.
- You’re not left lonely or alone.
- Good surprises, gifts of laughter and togetherness often arise.
- You will always be welcomed in your lover’s company.
- No other lover exists in the mind of your partner. There is no competition.
- There is constant and consistent contact.
- Love is not one-sided. If it is, or feels that way, then it’s likely unrequited.
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